THE INS AND OUTS OF GETTING IT IN

Break is here. HALLELUJAH.

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Going to finally get some of these dates from this summer posted. Hopefully I do them justice. It’s been a while.

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A. Is no longer. Long story short, told him- feelings were not mutual.

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STORY. OF. MY. LIFE.

So recap. I met a perfect guy very quickly on Match. But since you now know how little male attention I got until I was in college, I had no idea what to do with myself. I was so into any male attention that I actually managed to get attached very quickly.

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I didn’t want to go a day without texting him so I would text him if he didn’t text me. And there lies the problem. Guys want to chase you. As far as I’ve ever been able to tell, they do. Not that you should play hard to get. Just don’t chase.

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So we set up a date. He was in Virginia finishing a masters within a few weeks, but was coming to New Jersey that weekend to see his parents, who lived two hours from me. He offered to drive to me, no hesitation, no problem, and insisted on it. I agreed since I feel like the guy should drive to the first date if there’s distance (call me old fashioned?). Monday night we were webcamming and my computer crashed. Got back online and he was gone. Didn’t hear from him until Wednesday He said he had gone to find his phone when I disappeared and couldn’t find it since. Got a new one Thursday. Apparently.

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But then Friday came around, hadn’t settled plans.Texted him again and he said he’d call me Saturday morning. Last time I heard from him.

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And there we go. Last time I ever got attached to a guy I was talking to. I actually haven’t really liked one since.

I would never have originally though of using internet dating. At 20? I don’t think it ever actually crossed my mind as an option for me. But early Spring semester, I found out a friend had met an older guy she really liked and had started dating him. (It didn’t work out for them though). I was so surprised because I thought this girl had no trouble getting guys- she had been in a serious relationship for a year and a half prior to this which had ended a few months earlier. Nevertheless, I still didn’t really consider doing it.

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I was too embarrassed at the time to contemplate the idea of internet dating.

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But then, one of my best friends told me she had started using Match. After hearing her talk about it, I decided to drop $60 bucks on a membership. The main reason I wanted it was that I’m interested in older guys, get along with them better, like them better, and can’t meet them at school.

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Within two weeks, I met an incredible guy. He lived ten minutes away, was 28, and had a good job. He was tall, thin, cute, and very my type. We webcammed and got along disgustingly well, instantly.

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Next post, how I fucked it up really badly.

He came over Sunday night…two weekends ago? Holy CREEP.

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Like, I kind of had mild suspicions he was a tad creepsie. But did he whip it out Sunday. First of all I texted him and called him Sunday afternoon and couldn’t get a hold of him. The Guys were convinced that he was ditching me. (btw. The Guys is going to refer to the guys across the hall in our quad of apartments. We’ve ended up such good friends with them it’s ridiculous.) Finally he called me back, he’d been napping. Set up plans for 7. We couldn’t decide what we wanted to do because I had wanted to go to the comedy club but the tickets were expensive that night. (Cheap asshole. Warning sign one. Already on date three cheapp?) So we were thinking about dinner and a movie. But when he got here, he honed in immediately on one of my roommates. -.- So I did not want to go anywhere with him and wanted to get rid of  him as soon as possible. We ordered in (he paid. reluctantly. I tipped.) and watched STAR WARS. No offense to starwars lovers, but that is not a date movie. Made out a little bit.

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Not creepy yet, right? Well he also suggested, before I said I wanted to stay in, a Hookah Bar (told him TWICE that night I didn’t smoke so I didn’t want to go), HOOTERS. And a lame movie I didn’t want to see…Uh. It was a possibility he was going to stay the night too. But I was so grossed out come 9:30 I was like, “Uh, I don’t think you should spend the night.” and come 9:45, he left.

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Still not so creepy? I had told him if he slept over he had to behave entirely. On the phone making plans I said we might need to clarify the difference between my version of behave and his. He had NO PROBLEM with it. When he got here, one of the first things he asked me, very creepily, was “When you go to parties…people like to..you know…experiment…what are you doing with guys then?”…wtf!

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He also asked me if I’ve made out with girls. Said no but I’ve kissed them (like basic pecks). To which he asked. “Oh really, did you like it???”

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Oi. Next post though will be the beginning of the internet dating! YAY! We made it!

Whoops. Sorry guys. Just started school again and oh man. This semester is going to be so disgustingly rough. I don’t think humans know what busy is unless they pull my semester.

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I go straight LITERALLY from 9-9 Monday and Tuesday. No breaks, just the 20 minutes passing. 7 and 6 classes. Meetings Monday nights for the club I’m VP of. Job Tuesday evenings accompanying an autistic 4-year-old. Observations all day Wednesday on top of two classes. I’m essentially going to die.

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But anyway. I’ll try and post a bit now to catch up. (Procrastinating on homework!)

Okay. So I have yet to go on one date where I haven’t been asked on a second. 95% of these times I have been asked, the guys follow through and try to make plans (not that I accept them all). On dates- I’m really good with guys.

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But in real life? Not so much. We spent the last two days almost entirely with our neighbors across the hall. One of them I entirely recognize from Okcupid. Had we met and gone on a date I can safely say he would have been interested. But now? Not at all! Likes my roommate instead. DON’T UNDERSTAND!!!!

Bummer.

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His flight home from Germany got cancelled because of Irene, and their make up flight isn’t until Tuesday night. Sleeeeping alone.

Should be interesting considering how much older than me he is. Might it be weird to be around all 20 year old girls when you’re turning 28? I don’t really want him to meet my friends…idk. Heh. He hasn’t answered anyway since he’s currently in Germany. He’s messaged me twice while he’s been away though which is cute, and both times mentioned seeing me again soon. So I’m sure he’ll say yes or ask for another day if he’s busy.